How to Release the Doubt and Gain the Confidence

By Carlene Ashby

Becoming a successful entrepreneur is a matter of having passion, perseverance, focus and faith.

The kiss of death for an entrepreneur is doubt and confusion.  Those two elements will have you acting from fear, making choices and then changing your mind, never following through on courses of action that could bring results.

I’ve seen my clients and even myself, at times, suffer during these bouts of confusion and doubt.  But as Huruki Murakami said, “Suffering is optional.”

It is your mind that creates the suffering.  It is your thoughts that create confusion and doubt.  Therefore, you need tools to help you keep your thoughts focused positively and productively.

Your Prosperity Assignment Should You Choose To Accept It:

  1. Let your emotions be your indicator. When you are feeling stressed, upset, sad, angry, frustrated, confused, or doubtful, you know your thoughts are not supporting you.  You cannot have a stressful emotion without a stressful thought.  So notice your thoughts.  What are you telling yourself? Write down your thoughts.  They may be something like this: “What if I am making the wrong choice?  I don’t know what I’m doing.  I always screw up.  I need more clients.  If I don’t get more clients this ship is going to sink.  I need to find more answers.  Maybe this person has them…”  And so the confusing wild goose chase for the next best answers ensues.  And there goes your focus.
  2. Choose a course of action and stick to it. If you find a mentor or program you decide to work with, stick to that.  Getting too many opinions on what you should do will keep you from following through on any course of action that might net results.  A trap that many entrepreneurs fall into is buying info product after info product that promises to have the answers you are looking for.  The truth is that many of those programs do work – if you work them.  But taking bits and pieces from here and there and never following a program all the way through will serve only to confuse and frustrate you.  The same goes for working with too many coaches.  Having different people with different approaches giving you guidance doesn’t work.  That is why a ship only ever has ONE captain.  It’s not because other captains don’t know what they are doing, or wouldn’t be able to take you where you want to go, it is because having one captain simplifies everything and keeps the ship from going off course or taking a detour.
  3. When doubt or confusion creeps in, don’t resist it, transmute it. Work with the energy of your emotions by meditating.  I learned this particular method from David and Kristin Morelli of EverythingIsEnergy.com.  Find a quiet spot where you won’t be disturbed. Put on some relaxing music if that helps you to let go of your thoughts.  Find a comfortable position to sit or lay in.  Now imagine that a waterfall of liquid gold is pouring into the top of your head, filling your head, your neck, your shoulders, your chest, your back, your torso, your legs your feet, and it continues to pour through your feet into a single stream that continues down into the earth, right down to the earth’s core.  Allow that energy to flow for a few minutes and enjoy warmth of it.  When you’re ready, focus your attention on the feelings within you that resemble stress, confusion and doubt.  Locate them in your body.  Now imagine that there is a bubble right in front of you with a magnet inside of it.  Intend for the magnet to pull out all of those uncomfortable feelings.  See the bubble filling with the doubt, confusion and stress.  It may look like smoke, or sludge, just notice it.  When you feel that all of the uncomfortable feelings or negative energy have left your body, see another bubble beside it the first.  It is a shimmering white or gold bubble with another magnet in it.  Intend for this magnet to draw all of your power out of the first bubble into the second.  See your power leaving the negative bubble and entering the shimmering bubble.  It may look like white light.  When all of your power has been drawn into the second bubble, decide what to do with the first bubble.  Some people like to pop it, some people like to imagine it being bathed in white light and floating off into space.  Some people imagine it being sucked into the golden waterfall and down into the earth’s core.  Whatever you want to do is perfect.  Now imagine the second bubble moving toward your belly, your core.  Intend for your power to re-enter your body and either pop the bubble, allowing your power to rush into you, or imagine the whole bubble entering your core.  Enjoy the wonderful feelings in your body.  When you are ready, wiggle your fingers and toes and become aware of your surroundings again.  Do this practice as often as you want.  Daily is recommended.
  4. Set up a to do list on your own or with your mentor or coach. Schedule everything that you need to do to reach your goals for the next three to six months.  Each time you cross something off your list, your confidence will increase.  When you have completed everything on that list, then evaluate whether or not you need a new “captain” or not.  Keep in mind that some actions take longer than others to show results.  You do not get to eat the fruit the day you plant the seed, so be patient and make sure you have realistic expectations.

© Copyright 2010 Carlene Ashby

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